Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Color Palettes I'm Loving: Fall Decorating Edition

I saw this amazing fireplace/mantel decoration photo on Freshome and thought what an awesome color palette it would be! The architecture reminded me of some of the old styles I remember from the East Coast. However, the seafoam color on the walls gives it a modern twist. Oh, how I wish that was my actual fireplace instead of the standard issue white one I have at my apartment. Then again, I guess I'm lucky to have a fireplace in an apartment, so I shouldn't complain too loudly.

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Monday, October 15, 2012

My Fall Decorations: Wreath & Mantel

Before discussing the extent of my fall decorations, I should probably warn you! I am a minimalist when it comes to decorating. Mostly because I never seem to get around to it. So, the only decorating I have gotten to this fall is my mantel and my front door.

My front Door Wreath: I created this adorable wreath for my front door. I found all the items in the $1 bins at Target (love Target!) and whipped it up last Friday afternoon with my girls. They each got their own mini wreaths to decorate, which are now proudly placed on the mantel.

Mantel Decorations: These are a mixture of items I already had and items that were created. The mini wreaths are the ones my little darlings created. The subway art print is this month's free printable. The other tree print was a Father's Day gift to my husband. It was created by this amazing artist on Etsy in her shop Customs By Bernolli (She was such a pleasure to work with!). The plant is an orchid my sweet friend brought me after my most recent miscarriage. I guess I should've warned her about my black thumb! The angel figurine was sent by another friend after my first miscarriage. The H was a blank plywood letter that I spray-painted and stuck up there for good measure.

Ok, so I'm seriously doomed in the decorating department. Good thing you only see what I show you. *wink*

Don't forget to check out our new Photo Greeting Cards in the shop which debut TODAY!

Happy Monday!

Friday, October 12, 2012

5 Minute Fridays: I am a Habitual Aborter (otherwise known as Recurrent Pregnancy Loss)

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There. I've said it. I am a habitual aborter. At least, that is what it says in my medical chart. I had my fourth miscarriage a few weeks ago. It sucks. We told very few people we were pregnant. "I don't want to jinx it this time," I told my husband.  Having to go un-tell people is awful.

I hate when people feel sorry for me.  I feel like it is my pain and they are somehow not entitled to be sad for me. Being sad for me inevitably leads to awkward silence. Or worse, the "comforting" things people say when they don't know what to say. "You should be more grateful for the children you have." "Maybe it's God's way of telling you that you shouldn't have anymore." "Infertility and miscarriage are natural selection." "It is usually a chromosome issue. It's better you lost the baby now." "Don't worry, you'll have another." "You'll see those babies in heaven." I've lost track of all the truly hurtful things people have said to us in their quest to say something comforting. There are also the people who just avoid you because they don't know what to say. Some people pretend nothing ever happened. That's painful too. That's why we just stopped telling people whenever I'm pregnant.

Even more, I want people to feel sorry with us. The feelings of loneliness can be overwhelming for those experiencing the loss of a pregnancy. They feel as if no one can understand how much they hurt or how much they miss that little baby-even though it was only a part of their world for a few short weeks.  Studies have shown that the grief experienced in a miscarriage is just as intense as someone losing a loved one. Because that baby is a loved one. And to lose a baby is a very isolating experience.

So what can you do to help? Be informed! Become educated about infant/child & pregnancy loss. In fact, October is National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month. Here are a few resources:

The Compassionate Friends
Miscarriage Support
The truths about grieving a miscarriage or infant loss
Coping as a couple after a loss

Here are my tips from personal experience:

1. Don't just assume because it is not talked about it's not happening. 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage (that's over 600,000 in a year).  1% of couples suffer recurrent miscarriage (defined as 2 or more losses in a row). 1 in every 148 babies is stillborn. 3 in 1000 babies dies shortly after birth. 27,864 infants die every year before their first birthday.

2. Don't assume because those who experienced the loss are not talking about it that they are over it. In fact, for a more accurate list of the do's and don'ts I recommend reading this article.

3. Don't forget that loss affects both mother and father. See this essay from and OB regarding his personal experience with miscarriage.

4. Don't say "comforting" things. Honestly, the brutal truth is that nothing you say right now is going to make the hurt less. But not saying anything can make it hurt more. Just say you are sorry.

5. Grieve with us, not for us. Acknowledge that sometimes life just sucks. If you don't know what to say, just say so! And then share your time lending an ear or a helping hand. Share a meal. Call, write and basically be a good friend.  Do something thoughtful that shows your love. After our 3rd miscarriage my best friend (who, unfortunately, has also experienced more than her fair share of miscarriages) sent me a pinata filled with candy. She sent it "just in case I needed to hit something". It was the best thing anyone could have done.

6. And to those of you who have suffered, please know you are not alone! I'm suffering right along with you as are many others out there. You are not alone.

Lastly, I just want explain why now? Why am I coming forward to share our experiences in such a public way now? The answer is simple and honest.

I am tired of this being "our little secret". 

It's not that we planned it that way, we just felt we didn't have support. Emotionally we couldn't handle the stigma. And I don't want others to feel that way. Pregnancy loss is not something to be ashamed about. I feel like talking about it now will help me get over the stigma surrounding it. And maybe in sharing our story I've helped you too.

Thursday, October 11, 2012

Halloween Cake Ideas

Are you having a Halloween party? Are you looking for cake ideas? Look no further! Below are a few of my favorite cake ideas from across the web (pun intended!) Below are all things cake: cakes, cake pops and cupcakes. Which ones are your favorites?

from TLC's Cake Boss
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bottom photo by Bakerella 
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Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Shop News: Halloween Sale & Introducing Photo Greeting Cards

We have several exiting things going on in the shop!

1. We have our own domain! Within the next few months you'll be able to see us over at ehernandezdesigns.com. (If you go there now it's just a bunch of template stuff.) I'll let you know when we make the switch - so exciting!

2. We're having a Halloween sale! If you buy one Halloween card, you get the 2nd FREE! Go on over to the shop to purchase this awesome deal! Only while supplies last.

3. With the Holidays coming up we thought now was a great time to announce a new addition to our shop: Photo Greeting Cards! We've been working really diligently to plan and create these little beauties which will officially debut in the shop on October 15. There will be several options available including photo greeting cards for the Holidays, Baby Announcements and Save the Dates.

Below is a little preview:

Top: photo courtesy Vera Kratochvil
Bottom: Photo courtesy Scott Snyder
Make sure you check back on October 15 for the full line of Photo Greeting Cards!

Happy Wednesday!

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

Color Palettes I'm Loving: African Violet and Poppy Red

On September 6, Pantone announced the Spring 2013 Color Trends Report. (Click here to see the full report.)

The color trends are similar to the Fall 2012 trends, but with a little more pop and brightness. I think my favorite color palette of all the colors has to be African Violet and Poppy Red.

Below are some examples of how to use these colors for your spring wedding. What do you think?

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Monday, October 8, 2012

Columbus Day: Facts and a Few Crafts

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"In 1492 Columbus sailed the ocean blue..."

That's all I really remember about Columbus Day from school. My 3rd grade teacher taught us that song about Columbus. Since today is officially Columbus Day (declared in 1937 by FDR) I thought I'd add some facts about the day from History.com.

1. The first official Columbus Day celebration occurred in 1792 in New York.
2. The US isn't the only country to celebrate Columbus Day. Many of the countries in the "new world" also celebrate it. But in many Latin American countries it is called "Dia de la Raza" (Day of the Race).
3. Some cities have replaced Columbus Day celebrations with alternative days of rememberance (typically because the institution of Columbus Day came after intense lobbying by a Catholic organization). such as Berkeley's Indiginous Peoples Day, Hawaii's Discovery Day and South Dakota's  Native American Day.
4. Many celebrations are a mixture of Italian heritage since Columbus was Italian.
5. Check out this video for the "Real Story of Columbus"

Below are some links to Columbus Day activities and coloring pages:


Happy Columbus Day!

Friday, October 5, 2012

5 Minute Fridays: When I Grow Up

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I wanted to be lots of thing when I was a little kid. I wanted to be a nurse until I ended up in the hospital for months and changed my mind (another post for another day). I wanted to be a nun until my mom told me we were't Catholic so I couldn't be. Then I wanted to be a supermodel until a little boy in my 3rd grade class told me I wasn't skinny enough.

For a while in high school I wanted to be an actress. Freshman year of college I wanted to be a journalist. I actually changed majors 5 times in college - I almost became a social worker. Eventually I did become a teacher. Then a Mom. And now a small business owner who designs stationery and accessories! If you would've told me when I was little this is what I'd be doing I would've laughed.

Funny how life has a way of surprising us. What did you want to be?

Thursday, October 4, 2012

Cute Halloween Party Decorations

I'm thinking about having a Halloween party this year and I was online looking for some inspiration. Check out some of the cutest ideas I found! What do you have in mind for your party this year?

from HDTV

Check out this idea for a Goth/Glam Girl's Night out theme! I love how they used purple and black instead of the traditional orange and black. LOVE!

from Celebrations

from Kid Craft Project
from One Charming Party

Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Custom Stamp Giveaway at Savvy Deets Bridal!

We are so excited are able to partner with the awesome Savvy Deets Bridal to offer a Personalized address stamp celebrating their 2 years in the blogging world! The giveaway only runs through today, so make sure you take advantage and enter fast! Good luck!

Tuesday, October 2, 2012

Pantone Fall 2012 Color Fashion Trends

Did you know that every season Pantone announces what the predicted color trends will be? They usually announce several months in advance (so this is not news to some of you). For spring 2012 it was this. For fall they truly are smashing! Check it out here.

I am really inspired by a few of theses colors and think they would make an awesome color palette for a fall soiree. What do you think? Below are my fans.

Monday, October 1, 2012

October's FREE Printable: Fall Subway Art Print

October's Free Printable was based on this color palette. The combination of colors reminded me of fall in Virginia and I was inspired! I decided to do a beautiful chevron border surrounding this awesome fall subway art print. Feel free to use for personal use only. You may link to my post, but please do not redistribute or copy on your blog. Give credit where credit is due!

To fet this, simply click on the image and save do your desktop. Print on standard 8.5" x 11" card stock. Frame and voila!

I'm planning to use my print to spruce up my mantel decorations this fall. We'd love to see how you use this print in your fall decorating! Email us your photos at ehernandezdesigns@gmail.com.

Happy Decorating!